On the emotional side, your daughter is still your daughter, despite her adult behavior. “My main message was, ‘be your own person.’ Mostly they were uncomfortable talking about it.” Kaufman’s daughters are now in their early 20s.Sex and dating are still awkward subjects but the conversation continues.If your daughter is dating, she may have stronger emotions than she’s had so far in her life.As a parent, this is one of those opportunities to help your daughter learn through experience. Remind her that both she and the object of her affection are young.“Parents play an important role in conveying their values,” says Kantor.But before you tell your daughter exactly what she can or can’t do, understand there’s only so much you can control.
You still have a role in protecting your daughter’s physical and emotional health. If not, bring her to a doctor who can talk with her about protecting herself from unwanted pregnancy or sexually transmitted disease. A Lifelong Conversation Even though her mother never had The Talk with her, Kaufman felt it was her obligation to talk with her daughters about sex, dating, and peer pressure. What they did tell her, by way of rolling eyes, was that they didn’t want to talk about it. Your daughter already has some ideas about sex, for better or worse. The mother-daughter sex talk is rarely straightforward.Prepare Your Daughter for Peer Pressure Peer pressure comes in many forms. If she believes that everyoneelse is having sex, she may push herself, as well as her boyfriend, to move too far and too fast. For instance, less than half of high school students report having ever had sexual intercourse.And only 13% of teens report having sex before the age of 15.