AND ANOTHER UPDATE: I didn’t “find myself on a date” I realised during the date, with an attractive woman who was within my desired age range who happened to be younger than me and not a mom.It was my realization that we had nothing in common (yes we seemed to have a lot of spark on txt messages and via email) once we were sitting at a table together.It was a moment of finding myself, not discovering that she was younger. What she might be thinking, her motivations for sitting at the table are for us to discover, hopefully, via clear and honest communication.I discovered that I wasn’t interested in this attractive, younger, woman for a variety of reasons I tried to articulate. There are just as many women in online dating who do the exact same thing.
It can blur your vision when trying to figure out if you want to hang with this person for the long run.2. (I’d like to keep getting fitter, but my joy is genuine.) In several previous online dates I found myself sitting across the table from very attractive, usually younger, women who had nearly nothing in common with me. The Spark Is Only a Start If the chemistry (tail wag) is ON, there are still a ton of steps along the path before we’re in a relationship. (If I’m a reader and you’re a reality tv junkie, we might not go the distance.) We need to synchronize our schedules over time. If we do decide to sleep together I want to know that we’ve just become mutually exclusive.And perhaps our unfinished wounding might keep us from starting the dating process again.Don’t miss the exciting conclusion of this single dad’s journey: A Dad In Love, Again(I’ve got two kids and a full-time job, but I’d still like to find time to be with someone.)1. I will admit that getting back out there, for me, as a man, initially was about sex.And nothing against the non-parents in the group, but I’m so wrapped up with my kids, that if you don’t have that same passion and joy, we’re probably going to have to look for things to have engaging conversations about. (Let’s not start with jumping in bed or looking at vacation calendars for a while. (If we’re about to sleep together I can assure you we’ve had this conversation.)8.If you have kids, we’ve got an immediate starting point for everything. Brutally Honest If it’s not a fit on the first date I’m going to try to let you know as gently and as quickly that it wasn’t a fit. Feeling the Feelings Men are often accused of not feeling their feelings.