To the best of your knowledge, what is a Christian marriage? This might be okay, but you will have missed an opportunity to gain insight into them as individuals and as a couple. With no prior prompting, have the bride tell you the groom’s testimony of his faith! Is it your desire to have a Christian ceremony and Christian wedding? If the couple knows ahead of time they will be asked about their faith, they will have time to “prepare” an answer.Using this book as a resource helps facilitate an orderly approach to gleaning from God’s Word topics related to marriage. How and why did you decide that you should get married? Since you are postponing this requirement to the next meeting, this won’t be completed. Pre-Marriage counseling is a process, and it’s better to get to the heart of the matter rather than to complete a checklist.
What is there about your present relationship that makes it different from those past instances which did not last? Describe the spiritual dimension of your relationship up to this time?
You, on the other hand, will have prepared and have a mental outline of what you would like to accomplish. Schedule all other meetings, about one month apart, and outline what will be covered in each meeting. To clarify that no announcements should be sent out until approval by the counseling couple is given and communicated to the Officiant and church Office. Consult with other Pre-Marriage Counselors who may have experienced this situation, and certainly seek the counsel of the Elders and Deacons of the church.
Tell the couple that this final approval will not be given until after the third meeting. Fourth, and somewhat uncomfortable to discuss, is sexual purity.
First, and most important; Do both the bride and groom profess faith in the Lord?
Although there is a lot to do in this first meeting, there are four things that must take priority.