On the other hand, spend too The trickiest part of holiday shopping for a young (or entirely unofficial) relationship is understanding the relationship between the length and type of your relationship and the budget for the gift.
After all, no matter how much we try to tell ourselves that a gift is just a gift, what you give to your sweetie carries an intrinsic message about how you feel about them and your relationship. Ask around; buying expensive or outrageous gifts when you’re still early in the relationship is going to be a red flag to the majority of people. There are plenty of men – myself included – who’ve made the mistake of overcommitting on a gift too early in the relationship. Sometimes we legitimately trying to bowl them over and effectively buy their affections.
At the same time however, if you haven’t had the “Defining The Relationship” talk – you’re not exclusive or otherwise a “serious” relationship – then you want something cute and fun that reflects the fact that you’ve been enjoying your time together.
Giving something practical like, say, cookware, implies a more committed relationship than you actually have.
But when you want to show that you care, you want to go the extra mile…
especially if you’re not necessarily into or don’t really understand her interests.
If you’re seeing each other once or twice a week, then you want to consider something heartfelt and fun but relatively cheap: no more than on the outside edge, plus dinner. Anything more substantial than, say, a book by her favorite author is going to be a bit much.
If you’re seeing each other upwards of three times a week, you’re starting to move into more serious territory and you have slightly more flexibility in gifts.
This is also a good time to prowl through Amazon wishlists for inspiration.
I point out that at this stage, practical gifts are more acceptable, especially if you’re living together.
Just be sure that it’s something she’s expressed interest in; it wins you extra brownie points for being considerate and paying attention.
Hell, stores in Austin were putting up Christmas displays in October.
And to be perfectly honest, if I the holiday induces in my friends and family…