If you rely on men to tell you who you are in this world, you will always be at their mercy and your life will be a painful series of ups and downs with no solid sense of self-worth to stand on.
Before you can be in a relationship with someone else, you have to work on the relationship you have with yourself.
Someone else can contribute to your overall level of happiness, but they can never be your sole source of happiness.
You also can’t develop a sense of worth or self-esteem from the outside.
You’re setting yourself up for a lot of unnecessary misery if you take it personally and think that it has to be something about you.
And those kinds of wounds can take a lifetime to heal and will inevitably carry over into your next relationship.
If you end up in a place where you fear rejection, you’ll start to anticipate it and then you’ll be more likely to be rejected, thus confirming your initial prediction and affirming your belief that anyone you like won’t like you, which may pave the way for more rejection and on and on the vicious cycle goes.
If I could write a note to my younger self it would be: “Don’t take it all so personally.
You’re wonderful, and if someone else doesn’t see it, let that be their problem, not yours.” Unfortunately, my younger self didn’t get the memo and any type of rejection (especially from the opposite sex) would wreak havoc on my self-esteem.