When we ignore the problem, we allow it to flourish.
I attended an all girl Catholic boarding school where there was, as you can imagine, sweet FA in terms of male attention to be had.
When it came to finding love in New York, Amber Soletti, a 42-year-old who lives in the West Village, had no luck dating older guys or men her own age.
While they were “well-established and articulate,” she wasn’t physically attracted to them and found they had too many issues.
The response to the news that these films are being made is one of disgust.
People are asking why, they’re questioning in what world Elle Fanning and Jude Law feels like an appropriate romantic pairing and some people have suggested that it’s unlikely that a woman that young would want to be with a man that old. I might not like it, you might like it, and we might all wish that is wasn’t true, but the thing is, teenage girls do fancy older men. When we pretend that teenage girls don’t have a sexual identity, or that they don’t ever find older men attractive, we ignore the problem.
Similarly, Chloe Grace Moretz is starring in the grim looking I Love You, Daddy. The upshot of these films is broadly speaking the same.
And unlike his previous flings, Siegner wanted a serious relationship and was straightforward about her desires.
“When you’re an ambitious woman, it’s very difficult — you either have to subsume what you wanna do for somebody else, or live with the struggle to fight your partner on top of business survival, and it’s a very unhealthy relationship,” says Nicole Wipp, a 45-year-old attorney and entrepreneur, who found a perfect match in her husband, Marcus Sutherland, a 33-year-old paramedic.
“Dating somebody younger than myself, there’s an acceptance of ambitious women — it’s more normalized.” They met at the University of Hawaii in November 2002, when she was a law student and he was a sophomore undergraduate.
“Even with the age gap, I’ve never quite met anyone like him,” she says.
In this case the girl in question (though we might as well go full Nabokov and call her a nymphet) is fifteen.