The advantage of meeting someone on vacation is that the two of you have "preselected" similar interests and comfort levels.
A friend met her future husband by walking up to him at the swimming pool of a resort and asking, "How does anyone water-ski on this thing?
Or you might kick things off by talking about the book or magazine you are reading, or your impending (or just-concluded) vacation.
Even an offer to share your travel snacks makes a great icebreaker. When the plane landed, he asked Leslie if she would have any time for dinner or sightseeing. That led to a long-distance relationship and a move to San Francisco, where Leslie and Paul celebrated their 10-year anniversary this year.
Same goes for fundraising, wrapping holiday presents and teaching new skills. On planes, trains and automobiles — or waiting for them.
It's easy — or at least logical — to strike up a conversation with a seatmate; if nothing else, you've got your destination in common.
These younger guys are both curious and excited about dating a woman who, is not ashamed of what she wants sexually, unlike the younger girls of his own age who are often confused about just about everything, including their romantic and sexual desires.
That relationship between a younger guy and an older woman is likely to be supercharged by a combination of the younger man’s peak sex drive and the older woman’s confidence, experience and her own sex drive.
I went out with an instructor I talked to over the crabmeat canapés at a faculty event. Afterward, eager to keep the connection alive, she went to his shop and thanked him in person. Years earlier, newly divorced and pushing my daughter on a playground swing, I spotted a cool-looking man with his daughters. At a Web-design course, for example, my divorced neighbor, Larry, faced a computer and a blank wall — no interaction with fellow students, no chance to mingle.
Both were committed to their jobs, so they kept things secret for nearly a year, sitting apart at meetings and commuting to work separately — even after they had moved in together!
Ultimately, Suzanne and Joe decided to get married, obviating the whole "workplace awkwardness" issue. When my daughter's friend lost her mother, I invited the widowed father to brunch.
And if romance does bloom, it may be hard to do your jobs when you're preoccupied with arranging "alone time." But relationships can take root and thrive in this fertile meeting ground.
My copywriter friend, Suzanne, started dating a fellow team member, Joe, at her advertising agency.