Instead of extending yourself to friends and family for things that they can provide way better than your partner can, you may fall into the trap of believing your partner just doesn't you — and that someone else might."Human beings are built for connection — it's wired into the depths of our being," says Dr.Paul Hokemeyer, a licensed family and marriage therapist and a clinical member of the American Association for Marriage and Family Therapists. This is why we're the healthiest and happiest when we're connected to a group of people rather then depending on a single person for all of our emotional and physical needs""Diversifying the sources through which we connect enhances our ability to thrive," he says.
Remember: Splitting the occasional pizza with a buddy shouldn't make you feel like a thief about to commit the ultimate heist. "The person completely fills your mind's mental space (you think about him/her constantly or obsessively)," Walfish says.
Even better: Your Jon Snow fantasies could potentially come to fruition, because he seems as emotionally invested in you as your therapist, and that is alluring as hell.
So much so that you go out of your way to be around him.
And there are healthy ways to do that, like joining a class, book club, scheduling regular dinner dates with friends each month, or even simply Skyping with family when you're too busy for regular visits.
All of these efforts will enrich your life and broaden your social circle so that you don't expect 24/7 attention from your partner.